Navigating the unpredictable waters of life.

Life has been crazy recently, to say the very least. TL-DR version; my sister and her boyfriend got in some deep (drug/heroine) related trouble with the law last September (2018), which the state then stepped in and removed my 2 nieces from the home and placed guardianship with my 60+ year old mother of my sister's 7 year old, and (now) 21 month old girls. My sister decided to hide/not address this issue with my wife and I for 2+ months before we asked what was up, from some rather large hints we visually caught on to. We started at first (informed it was temporary) started taking the 2 girls on weekends to give my mother a break. This lasted through march of 2019 when we found out that my sister was now hiding a pregnancy from us as well, and was due in May. Then we found out her involvement wasn't as she said by simply being there, but that she also used that morning also. The boyfriend, required two Narcan® doses to revive him; as he apparently died behind the steering wheel while driving due to Heroin overdose. So the legal processes pushed forward, once we were clued in. The state, JFS (Job and Family Services), have stepped in and due to a non-compliance on both parties (mother and father) they have applied for temp custody of the 2 children, and as we found out last night also the newborn as well. We will have shared guardianship of Abby, Vera (VeVe), and the newborn Paisley. This could be for 6 months, for a year, for for longer (5 years was tossed around as well). We are alright with wherever this may take us, for as long as it's needed to resolve, if at all possible the children can eventually return to the mother and father. That is the state's view on the matter, and ours as well. Until then, we will care for and raise the children, to offer them the best chance in life we can give them. Along side of this, around the same time, our name came up on the embryo donation list we had enlisted in over 2 years ago; after 3 failed IUI attempts in 2015/2016. So since January of 2019 we have been undergoing to steps and processes needed to take for that venture as well. I am 39, my wife is 37 and we are running out of a good time frame for things to 'align' for us to be able to attempt a natural birth child. We are not against adoption, or fostering; but my wife would like a final chance / opportunity to carry and deliver a baby.

So with all of these changes and moving pieces, our immediate future forecast is unpredictable at best. We have gone from struggling to have children in the last 8+ years, to having 2 girls full time, now a third full time, and potentially if the embryo insertion works more on the way in 2020. Two of my wife's siblings are twins, and of her 4 brothers and sisters 2 of them have had twins. So twins runs in the family. We'll have to just wait and see. Right now I've been spending a lot of time in scripture, positive uplifting music, and trying to provide the best possible outcome for some little girls that I can at this time in my life. Any well wishes, thoughts, advice, and prayers are certainly welcomed. Not only for our new immediate family, but also for those who are struggling with grief of losing children, and trying to tackle recovery at the same time. Which to think about, can at times seem so defeating and unbearable. Right now we could all use prayers! Until next time, thank for reading!